Ever had any friends known since secondary, or even primary school days? I've had my fair share of friends since childhood, observing most, if not all, have changed. With so many transitions going on, from sec sch, to tertiary, NS... working... family life... Meeting different kinds of people, thrown into a different kind of enviroment, would i change in such a way that the people around me gets affected in a negative way?

The key would lie in this question: "What is my life centered around?" It determines our lifestyle, personality and manner of speech. If our lives is centred on our enviroment we would always change.

• Why do people in NS become more callous and insensitive? Could it be due to the lack of understanding they receive in their camp and the usage of valguarities cause them to be affected in their manner of speech?
• Why do some claim their JC mates are not as friendly and helpful? Could it be due to the competitive and time pressing envoriment they are placed into? As being friendly and helpful does not get one ahead?

It takes one who is really secure in who he is, have a very strong stand about the values he believes, to remain unchange in a changing enviroment. Such a person doesn't win popularity and worse, may not be accepted all around, but he would sure win the RESPECT of others.

People look up to a secure person, one who holds his belief and is comfortable with himself, not always changing constantly to fit into the crowd.

1. I must centre my life around my faith. This is to guard my converstaion, lifestlye, heart, personality and values. When God becomes the world to me, when he centres around everything i do, my life... i know there is an anchor in an ever changing environment.
2. The people that matters to me. Changing in a negative way would affect people whom i love and treasure in a negative way as well.

Changes are good!! WE MUST CHANGE! But its the kinda change that i would call "improvement" Each of us carry a side of us that is a weakness, a blindspot. And such changes are necessary to be a better person to people around us, especially those who matters to us.

How bout changes in our lifestyle and personality, for the ones we love?
Some wives complain about their husband not talking enough, and husbands may normally reply:
"Well that's me what, i'm quiet by nature, don't talk very much. She better accept me for who i am since that she married me"

Perhaps its true. But can that aspect of him be changed to suit into his wives needs so that he can be a better lover to her.

Or one may ask "why should i change for someone who does not love me for who i am?"

I quoted this from the blog of a close friend of mine, i really thought it was somewhat admirable:

"If that person is not worthy enough for you to effect certain changes in your life, it only goes to demonstrate that the relationship is not of that great value to you, and you do not craved enough for his/her love sufficiently to sacrifice your own interest. Such a love, is not the ultimate love and certainly not the kind of love that will give you the maximum satisfaction. In short, if your lover is not worthy for you to make a change, he or she is not worth your love."

A woman may find soccer rather silly, 20 man fighting for one ball. If love meant to the extend of laying down one's life for each other.... how could the woman claim to be willing to die for him when she is unwilling to accompany him to a soccer game. This is vice versa from a guy to a girl as well.